The Nigerian Parenting: Good or Bad?



The core of Nigerian parenting, when applied effectively, might not always produce the 𝗯𝗲𝘀𝘁 version of yourself, but it will definitely make you a 𝘀𝗮𝗻𝗲 version, instead of one that is morally lost. Recently, I watched a podcast where Nigerians were criticized for bringing their parenting style to the UK. But here’s the reality:

 

During elections, you say children are not old enough to make decisions. Yet, when it comes to shaping their character for a strong future, you give them complete autonomy over decisions that shape their personalities. 🤔

 

𝗛𝗲𝗿𝗲𝘀 𝗺𝘆 𝗮𝗱𝘃𝗶𝗰𝗲 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝗡𝗶𝗴𝗲𝗿𝗶𝗮𝗻𝘀 𝗿𝗮𝗶𝘀𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗰𝗵𝗶𝗹𝗱𝗿𝗲𝗻, 𝗲𝘀𝗽𝗲𝗰𝗶𝗮𝗹𝗹𝘆 𝗶𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗱𝗶𝗮𝘀𝗽𝗼𝗿𝗮:

- 𝗗𝗶𝘀𝗰𝗶𝗽𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗲 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝘀𝗰𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗺𝗶𝗻𝗴: The Japanese don't scream at their kids, or hit them all the time but still raise well-behaved children. Discipline doesn't have to be harsh; it just needs to be 'consistent.' 👌

 

- 𝗦𝗲𝘁 𝗰𝗹𝗲𝗮𝗿 𝗿𝘂𝗹𝗲𝘀: Establish rules of expected behaviour and revisit these with the kids often. Create consequences for breaking these essential rules, and make sure to follow through. 📋

 

- 𝗕𝗲 𝗳𝗶𝗿𝗺 𝘄𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘀𝗽𝗲𝗮𝗸: When you tell your kids there will be a consequence for bad behaviour, enforce it. Don’t let your words become empty threats. 💬👊

 

- 𝗗𝗶𝘀𝗰𝗶𝗽𝗹𝗶𝗻𝗲 𝘄𝗵𝗲𝗻 𝗻𝗲𝗰𝗲𝘀𝘀𝗮𝗿𝘆: If physical discipline is needed, use it only to correct severe misbehaviour in extreme situations. Never out of anger or frustration. ⚠️

 

- 𝗧𝗲𝗮𝗰𝗵 𝗿𝗲𝘀𝗽𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗶𝗯𝗶𝗹𝗶𝘁𝘆: Regardless of your financial status, ensure your children know the value of responsibility. Wealth doesn't exempt children from learning accountability. 🧠💪

 

- 𝗖𝗵𝗮𝗿𝗮𝗰𝘁𝗲𝗿 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗶𝗻𝘁𝗲𝗹𝗹𝗲𝗰𝘁: Focus on raising children who are strong in character as well as intellect, because both are crucial for their success. 🎓

 

Let's raise children who are well-rounded and grounded, whether at home or abroad. 🌍

 

𝗧𝗼 𝗵𝗮𝗽𝗽𝗶𝗲𝗿 𝗽𝗮𝗿𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴!

 

Damilola Ogunremi,

𝗘𝘁𝗶𝗾𝘂𝗲𝘁𝘁𝗲 𝗘𝘅𝗽𝗲𝗿𝘁 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝗜𝗺𝗮𝗴𝗲 𝗖𝗼𝗻𝘀𝘂𝗹𝘁𝗮𝗻𝘁

 

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