If you're about going into a relationship, or you're in one already, the following tips will help you along your way.
Know What You’re Looking For
Meeting a guy or gal of your dreams is a fabulous thing! However, if you
don’t know what you’re looking for first, you’re going to make the dating process much more complex than it needs to be. Decide what sort of dating
relationship you are looking for before you get started with your hunt, and you
will set yourself up for dating success.
Establish a Mutual Friendship
Do you want a serious relationship? Are you looking to play the field
and have a little fun? Is sex with no strings all you want? Or maybe you’re looking
to find that special someone and you’ve got till death do you part on your
mind? Whatever, it is that you’re looking for; when you meet someone the first thing
is to establish a relationship. It’s awkward to defining relationship before
establishing one. For example; a man is seen as a weirdo. If he meets a lady
for the first time, calls her beautiful names and then, because she responds positively
or validates the compliments he feels is now in a romantic relationship with the
lady. This is also vice versa. So, in
order words, always establish a mutual friendship before defining what you want
out of a meeting.
Dangerous Discussion
Discussing how much you’re worth comes with an increased risk that
you’ll come across a shady character that is not exactly what he or she makes
themselves out to be. Not every guy or gal you meet will be honest. In fact,
some great guys and gals are just so rare to find. So, it’s necessary you don’t
discuss your bank details, etc, with someone you just met.
Is it Safe to Visit?
If a guy or gal you just met suggests meeting at their place or
yours and they insist this is really shady. I suggest you should not go. Before
you decide it’s safe to visit a guy or a gal, meet a couple of time in public
locations as this could give you an ample of time to see a number of red flags
before entering a long time dating relationship.
Don’t Hit Off
If you eventually meet in a “closet” in his house, or yours, try as much
as possible to resist the urge of having sex.
By doing this, you create a bedrock for a relationship. A relationship
based on sex, may just be all about it!
Let it Breathe
Once the relationship kicks off, you need to prevent what I call the
helicopter effect. This is when one of the parties is constantly stalking the
other person. This could be by incessant calls and messages, unsolicited visits, and
throwing jealous shades. Allow your relationship to breathe.
Sex
Having sex in a relationship bothers on opinion because some people feel
they need to have sex in their relationship. I personally don’t advice pre-marital sex, which is
morally not acceptable. Ladies note that having incessant illicit intercourse
may end up spoiling the fun for the guy. As a typical male folk, relishes suspense.
My dad would say, “Don’t have your honeymoon before your honeymoon.”
To Love or Not?
One of my mentors once said that it’s safer to love in a marriage
relationship than when dating. This is about giving and allowing yourself to
receive from the other. In the quest to
show love, don’t keep giving yourself without receiving from the other person. So,
make love a decision, and not solely an emotional feelings built around fantasies.
Love your partner for who they are and not encapsulate them in your own
desires.
Should You Commit?
Yes, you must commit in order for a relationship to work.
You Deserve Safety
If unfortunately, you become involved with an abusive guy or a gal, it’s outrightly not advisable to keep this sort of relationship going, because it’s
bound to be worse if you end up marrying this person. While change is possible,
it's hard to do and it takes a long time. You don’t owe it to
anybody to stay in an abusive relationship. So, care for yourself.
Dating & the Altar
Despite your dreams, feelings, impulses, and conviction, note that not
every relationship leads to marriage. Always try to look at the big picture. People
come into our lives for different reasons which may be beyond a romantic
relationship, even though; we met on such terms. Don’t count your eggs before they hatched. See
relationship as an opportunity to make yourself better. Good luck with your
dating relationships.
Damilola Ogunremi – DRS etiquette and Image Consulting
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