One of the Ways
of Knowing Rude Parents. . .
“Middle Aged Tenant. . .
My neighbor’s water tank was filled
to the top and dripping into my bedroom. I went upstairs to their apartment and
told them to turn off their borehole machine. Shortly after I got back to my flat
my neighbor’s first daughter, a young woman who recently finished from the
university came by to tell me I was stupid for coming to tell them to turn off the
borehole machine. She said I have no right whatsoever to instruct them. When I
reported her to the parents, their response was that I must have been rude to
their daughter to have been called "stupid."
“My Comment. . .
I can never allow my brother to
marry into this kind of family, because her sort of parents will never give
good counsel when she has problems with her husband.”
Having the wrong amount of manners can reflect negatively on your
children and young adults.By being polite to the adults offended with your
children you show how responsible you can be. It doesn't make you a pushover. Rather you gain much respect of friends,
teachers and neighbors. When you are always polite and respectful, you avoid
your children some of the misfortunes of life, such as getting into fight,
experiencing injury leading to hospital and police case, as well as raising misfits
when they become parents themselves.
I know some of you reading this
article might say what if my child is right and the adult feeling offended is
the real offender. Well if I don’t convince you of the advantages that come to
those with absolute good manners, listen to what a parent said when I asked her
to describe a time when NOT using good manners hurt her:
A Parent. . .
“I got bitten on the breast. Though
the person fighting my daughter got arrested my left breasts is permanently
damaged.”
You can see how important it is to apply absolute good manners in unpleasant circumstance whether or not your children is right or wrong. As parents, we
should always remember that your goal is to raise well rounded successful
children and not self-assured miscreants.
In my much younger years, when my father
walks in on me where I’m fighting, he doesn’t ask me what happen. Instead, he
turns to the person I’m fighting with to inquire of what the problem is. He would
apologize to the person. And that instant I would be the devil to pay for. When
we get into the house, I would be so mad at my father for taking side with my
offender.
Do you know what my father says to
me in this circumstance? “You are my own. That’s how I’m supposed to resolve the
fight as a good parent. Whatever you become tomorrow is my gain while this
person you fight with must have forged ahead in life.”
Hmmmm......
I’ve been by myself since I was 23
years of age and now I’m in my 30’s. Each step along the way to adulthood, I’ve
looked back to thank my father for raising me well. When an adult hurt me badly,
and I say I’m never greeting the adult again, my father would never consent to such decision if he’s aware of it. He would make me see all the advantages of
greeting the adult in question. My father reflected good upbringing then passed it down to me. You can imagine
the kind of children I will produce in time to come.
If you are ever in the shoes of the above parent, here is what you should say:
Tenant. . .
"Your child called me stupid"
Ask what happened. Wait patiently for the offended to explain. When he or she is done. Don't defend your child. Don't fume. Say you are sorry and mean it even though your child has told you a different story. Remember your personal image matters too. Tell the offended you will talk to your child. Then, have your child apologize later because it is the right thing to do. You may not see the essence of this politeness now, but its outcome will improve your future positively.
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